My baby stands (or sits up) in the crib and won’t sleep!

 

Baby boy with blue eyes standing in crib not sleeping

Nothing makes a mama prouder than when her baby learns a new skill. Your baby sitting up and pulling to stand are big developmental milestones! But what should parents do when milestones interrupt their baby’s sleep? Should you intervene when your baby stands in the crib and won’t sleep?

Some babies fall asleep sitting up! If you’re worried because your baby won’t lay down in the crib or they might fall down and hit their head, you’re in the right place. 

This article explains what to do when your baby stands (or sits up) in the crib and just won’t sleep. 

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Babies learn new developmental skills in phases. Most babies don’t learn to roll front to back, and back to front, in a day. Instead, it happens in stages. First, your baby learns to sit up (or stand.) But the second part of that development, being able to get back down, comes several days later.

It can be tiring and frustrating when your little one gets stuck (or just refuses to lie back down) in the middle of the night. But, I promise you, it doesn’t last long. Sleep trained babies get through this phase quicker, since they know how to fall back asleep on their own. 

Most parents worry about their baby losing sleep. Or getting caught in a never-ending game of jack-in-the-box. How you intervene depends on whether or not your baby is upset. Let me explain.

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“My baby is standing or playing in the crib, instead of sleeping.”

 

If your baby sits or stands up in the crib, and is happy hanging out, the best thing to do is give them space.

If your baby can’t get back down on their own, this gives them the opportunity to practice.

If your little one can get down on their own (but is just refusing to) this prevents them from getting dependent on your help.

How long you leave your little one is up to you. As long as they’re not crying, I recommend giving them 15-20 minutes to work it out on their own

After that time, go in and quietly sit on the floor next to the crib. Pat the mattress to help your little one understand that they should lie down. When you sit on the floor, you’re down low which makes baby want to come down to your level. If you stand next to the crib, baby wants to be up at your level. 

You should only reposition your baby after giving them a decent amount of time to do it on their own, like 20 minutes.

Yes, everyone will end up losing sleep for a few nights. But giving your little one the chance to maneuver around the crib helps them grow comfortable in their sleep space and not depend on you long-term. It’s the quickest way to get your baby sleeping well again.

 

This video will explain what to do when your baby is standing in their crib and won’t sleep

 

 

 

 

“My baby falls asleep sitting up”

 

At some point, most babies will fall asleep sitting up. My daughter did this at 7 months. I felt sad seeing her on the video monitor snoozing propped up against the crib. So I went in and laid her down. Guess what happened? She woke up, and sat up again! And the jack-in-the-box game began.

It can be upsetting to think about your baby sitting up while sleeping in the crib, but this phase lasts only a few days. Babies quickly learn that it’s more comfortable to sleep lying down and will get themselves back down. This happens quicker, though, if your baby is given the space and opportunity to practice. So, again, it’s best to leave your little one to figure out how to get themself back down. 

Most parents will try sneaking in and gently repositioning their baby if they fall asleep sitting up (or even standing!) Just be prepared for them to wake immediately. ?

 

“My baby stands (or sits up) and is crying in the crib!”

 

If your baby is sitting up or standing in the crib, and is crying, it’s ok to give more support.

I always encourage parents to wait a few minutes to see if their little one will resettle on their own. I promise, it WILL happen one day. (And it’ll shock the pants off you!)

You can wait only 3-5 minutes before going to your baby if they’re upset.

Rather than picking your baby up right away, sit on the floor next to the crib and encourage them to lie down. Patting the mattress can help. Another few minutes of fussing, with a parent nearby, can help your little one get back down on their own.

If you know your baby can lie down independently, you can wait it out a bit longer, like 5-10 minutes.

After this time, if your baby is still upset, gently lay them down. Keeping your hands on them for a few minutes can prevent them from popping right back up, as can sitting on the floor next to the crib.

Make sure to give your little one lots of floor time during the day to practice getting up and down on their own. Don’t always help them if they get “stuck” in a position. Give your baby time to work it out on their own (as long as they’re safe.)

 

 

 

 

“I’m worried about my baby falling in the crib and hitting their head.”

 

Many parents worry that their baby might get hurt if they fall down in the crib and hit their head. I completely understand (and I’ve been there) but I would avoid rushing in to help your little one get back down. Always give your baby time to work it out on their own. Only intervene quickly if your baby has gotten hurt before. 

It’s rare for babies to get injured in a crib that has only a mattress with a fitted sheet. Watching your baby on the video monitor can reassure you that they’re safe. You can also check out Vertical Crib Liners. They’re a safe way to soften up your baby’s crib. Traditional crib bumpers and mesh liners aren’t safe.

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Your baby sitting up, or standing, in the crib and refusing to sleep is a common “rite of passage” in parenthood. It can feel like an eternity when you’re up at 3 am with a baby that refuses to lie down, but I promise that this lasts only a few days. 

The more “hands off” you can be, the quicker this phase will pass. Let your baby practice their new skill during the day too, so they can master it sooner. Some parents have their babies practice in the crib during the day when they’re awake. Sleep trained babies tend to struggle less, since they know how to fall back asleep on their own. If your baby is five months, or older, you can begin sleep training to get the whole family sleeping through the night. 

 

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6 Comments

  1. Jessica

    Hello! I could really use some help. My 11 month goes down easy at 8pm after our routine, but will not stay asleep. She has always woken up in the 11 o’clock hour, and after that it is all over the place. I generally nurse that first time, but try not to after. Some times she will sleep for another 2 hours, but most of the time it’s an hour or less. She wakes up crying hard, she will stand up and cry. I have tried Ferber, but everytime I leave the room she gets up and cries. She will fall asleep standing, if she falls she wakes back up and it starts again. When I go in there the cry is a horrible whaling cry, obviously heartbreaking. We can go back and for like this all night long. I can hold her and she will sleep all night, not ideal because I can’t stand all night and don’t want to sleep in a chair. I can have her lay with me, but she wakes every few hours crying until I nurse. Naps are the same, so I will just lay with her on the floor and nurse to sleep and she will sleep fine for 1-2 hours. What reference material do you recommend??

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    • Micaela

      Hi Jessica, seems like your Lo has a nursing to sleep association. At her age, she could potentially sleep 11-12h without any night waking and unless your doctor tells you otherwise, she can safely be night weaned. Our sleep training program offer 4 step-by-step method you can choose from. 3 of those methods actually have you stay in the room. Teaching her how to fall asleep independently at bedtime will improve her night sleep and removing the nursing to sleep association will ensure that she will not wake up during the night unless she is truly hungry. You can check our program here https://www.babysleepmadesimple.com/21-days-to-peace-quiet-program/ and if you have any doubt you can sedn us an email.
      Have a nice day!
      Micaela BSMS Support Team

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  2. Gillian Kelly

    My baby has just turned 10 months and getting to sleep and staying asleep has gone to hell! The most important bit of background to this story is my baby came out of her harness for hip dysplasia at 9 months old (after being in it from 8 weeks old) and now she doesn’t know how to sleep without it! She will immediately roll over to sit up and crawl or stand up in the cot. I try and give her her space but she physically doesn’t know how to get from front to back which I believe is a tiny step in her development that she’s missed with having the harness on. Now she’s way down the track that if I try and get her to practice rolling from front to back she immediately tucks her knees up and crawls. I then have to go in and put her down onto her back every 10-15 minutes but she just rolls over. I’ve even tried ‘cold turkey’ and just tried not going in there at all but she literally lasted about hour and 15 minutes just sitting up and sucking her thumb until she’s hysterical and so overtired that I’ve had to either put her back in the harness or feed her to sleep to actually get SOME sleep.
    Previously WITH the harness she would be asleep with the time I put her in her sleeping bag and walk out of the room. I had a strict routine of feeding in the other room, the going into her room, making the room dark and turning white noise on. She self soothed so easily when going to sleep herself or going back to sleep in between sleep cycles by sucking her fingers. I’d always have to go in and wake her up because she’s sleep all day!! Now she’s getting MAX an hour of nap time and that’s with ++ intervention. If I don’t intervene she’ll just go HOURS not sleeping. Letting her ‘work it out’ has just not worked.
    – Have you had any experience or specific recommendations for babies sleeping AFTER the hip harness??
    – How long past the nap time should I let her go for before I intervene and do whatever it takes to get her to sleep?

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    • Alyssa Taft

      Hello Gillian,

      Is your LO sleeping in a sleep sack? I would definitely try this so she can feel somewhat cocooned like she did in her hip harness. It is definitely going to be an adjustment for her, but she WILL figure it out. Have you checked out our 10 month old sleep guide? It has great timing recommendations for awake times for naps!

      https://www.babysleepmadesimple.com/sleep-training-10-month-old

      Best, Alyssa, BSMS Support Team

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  3. Mina Naumova

    Hi there,

    I am a little bit worried that I am going into the wrong direction with my LO and I need your help. My baby is almost 1 yr old and nearly 2 ! months ago he started pulling himself up on the cotrails just all of a sudden when I was trying to put him to sleep. I tried everything, but I think that I might have overdone it in my constant attempts to lay him down and I broke down several times. To make things worse, I gave up at some point and took him to my bed which I was doing it for a month (just to fall him asleep and then moving him back to his cot in his room). Now I want him to start falling asleep on his own in his cot, but it is as difficult as before. I think I might have created a bad habit. He can sit down, not sure about laying down on his own, but he is fightingit big time until he is draining himself out and fell asleep exhausted from crying. Please help!

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    • Micaela

      Hi Mina, this issue is not uncommon and we help clients everyday solve it in our sleep training course 21 Days to Peace and Quiet. The program has advice on moving to a crib from a variety of sleep spaces such as parents’ bed, the Rock n Play, Dock a Tot, bassinet, etc…. so you’re covered for that!

      The program focuses on getting babies happily and easily sleeping in the crib all night long. The crib is the safest place for babies and toddlers to sleep and also leads to the most restorative sleep.

      The program has 4 step-by-step methods that walk you through teaching your baby how to settle to sleep on their own, which will show them how to resettle during night wakings too. It also covers reducing and fully weaning off night feeds.

      With 3 of the methods you stay with your baby as you teach them to sleep better. You don’t have to leave the room if you don’t want to. And you can choose a slower, more gradual method to reduce your baby’s resistance, fussing, and crying. We can’t promise “no tears” but you can work to minimize baby’s resistance.

      I’m confident we can get you and your baby sleeping great.

      Here are all the details: https://www.babysleepmadesimple.com/21-days-to-peace-quiet-program
      Micaela BSMS Support Team

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