Is Your Baby or Toddler Highly Sensitive?

Highly Sensitive Toddler BabyDoes your child have intense (and often extreme) reactions to new people or experiences? If so, he may be a Highly Sensitive Baby or Toddler. This article describes the typical traits of these perceptive little people and what their parents need to know to help them live, play and sleep well.

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Traits of a Highly Sensitive Baby or Toddler

Your highly sensitive baby or toddler doesn’t miss a thing! This perceptive little one sees, hears, smells and feels at a different frequency than others. He reminds you of things others may not notice- like an itchy shirt tag or a car alarm that won’t shut off. A tiny rock in his shoe can set off a meltdown. 

For your highly sensitive soul, an outing is an overwhelming sensory experience. Other babies may handle being passed from person to person just fine. Not your little guy, he gets overwhelmed and fussy. He often needs “down time” after play dates to restore his emotional balance, and is calm enough to eat when his environment is quiet and relaxed. Highly sensitive babies have difficulty relaxing enough to fall asleep, requiring hours of holding, rocking and bouncing– it’s the only thing that works!

It’s probably been difficult for you to understand your baby’s likes and dislikes. What worked yesterday isn’t going so well today. Highly sensitive babies and toddlers cry and cling a lot, leaving their parents confused, physically drained and often in need of an “adult beverage” at the end of the day.

It’s not all bad news, though, these emotive little ones are usually creative, intelligent and gifted with words. They are highly empathetic and tend to be artists. It’s estimated that 15-20% of children are Highly Sensitive. 

How Can I Make Life Easier for My Highly Sensitive Baby or Toddler? 

  • All children thrive with familiarity, however highly sensitive kids need an especially predictable routine. Eating, sleeping and playing at the same times each day helps your little one relax. Frequently changing the order of his day is simply too overwhelming for him.
  • Give your little guy time to warm up to new people or places. Don’t push him to overcome his “shyness” and definitely don’t throw him in Santa’s lap unless you want him to have an epic meltdown.
  • If you can learn to read his cues to avoid what triggers him, it will ease a lot of stress and worry (for you both.)
  • Highly sensitive babies and toddlers get overstimulated easily, making it hard for them to sleep. Your best bet for a peaceful sleeper is a consistent bedtime, relaxing bedtime routine and a sleep space that is dark, quiet and boring. No mobiles, night lights or lullabies playing all night. 

How Can I Get My Highly Sensitive Baby or Toddler to Sleep Well?

Firstly, you should focus on establishing a daily schedule.  Make sure your baby or toddler eats, naps and has the same bedtime each night. Many sleep problems diminish once meals and sleep times are in sync with your baby’s body clock.

After implementing this, if you’re still having multiple night wakings or short naps, check out my FREE Exhausted Mom’s Survival Kit. It’s my personal step-by-step guide on getting your baby to sleep well in a way that’s best suited for his temperament. 

How do you help your Highly Sensitive child? Let us know in the comments below.

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*Some material adapted from Secrets of the Baby Whisperer by Tracy Hogg & Melinda Blau and The Highly Sensitive Child by Elaine Aron, Ph.D.